Why we men are always wrong...

Spent the weekend with Deepak Chopra. He made this outrageous statement: Men in western society are stuck at the emotional maturity level of 8 year olds. We're all little boys needing our mamas. If this is true, and I believe it was true in my case until the light went on, men are responsible for the failure of most relationships.
Hold on, that's a bit harsh, isn't it? Well no. Men are hardwired to be bad at relationships and women are hardwired to be good at them. It all started back in the wild days when we were hunters and the hunted. Men were warriors and could not afford compassion and softer feelings. Women kept the social units together by networking. Men learned how to kill big, dangerous animals and destroy enemies. Women were nurturers of children and their protectors, the men.
After we emerged from the jungle and settled down to civilised life - when there was less call for killing and more time for relationships - emotional skills became more important than physical skills.
Men found they have underdeveloped skills in this area. Their heads are still in the jungle, fighting and killing and destroying, thinking this is what their woman wants. It's tough because women do want the traditional protector and provider (they don't need them as much, but they like to know they're there). But they want a soul mate now.
This means men have to sheath the sword of the ego and learn the tender arts of surrender. Easy to say, hard to do. WHY?
One word; ego. Men have lots of it. Men build the big towering buildings and invent the amazing inventions and fly to the moon and paint the great masterpieces... because they feel the need to, because they are driven by ego to express their dominance and achievement.
EGO is the great enemy of relationship, love, and spiritual growth. When EGO rules, the conscious mind needs three things, according to Deepak: It has a need for Approval. It needs to be in Control. And it needs to be Right.
Living without these things takes more guts than fighting and killing and doing all those things that come naturally.
It takes guts to love a woman, to love anyone. Because love is painful. Because love makes the EGO do things it doesn't want to do.
HERE IS AN EXERCISE: Keep an eye on your reactions this next week. Try to catch yourself seeking APPROVAL. Try to catch yourself needing to be in CONTROL. Try to catch yourself needing to be RIGHT.