Little attentions, big results

• LITTLE ATTENTIONS – A hundred small things make up the big message of love. Make the first thing you do when you get home to find her and kiss her/hug her/whatever. It reminds her she is #1. Remember to ask her about things she was planning to do during the day, to show you care. If you can, spend 20 minutes talking with her, making contact after the day, before turning to other things you want to do. Give her your full attention during these grounding sessions. She will feel heard and love you for it. It’s a form of foreplay. At other times, when she talks to you, try to give her your attention – even say “I’m listening” to drive the point home. Be on the lookout for signs she is tired or upset and ask her what’s wrong. Hug her several times each day for no reason. Touch her in non-sexual ways often, so she doesn’t feel every caress has to be about sex. Tell her “I love you” randomly throughout the day – call and leave the message on her voice mail. Show affection for her in public. Always pay more attention to her than others in public or at functions and parties. Hold her hand. Open the door for her. Look her in the eyes when talking to her. Ask her how she’s feeling. Make a fire or put on the heater in cold weather. (A primal male thing to do for a woman and she’ll love it.) Shower before sex. Leave the toilet seat down. Make the bed. Replace light bulbs promptly. Plan ‘dates’ several days ahead instead of at the last minute. Call when you’re going to be late. Take over some of her chores when she is tired. Take her for a walk. Compliment her for her hair or what she’s wearing.

"Try praising your wife, even if it does frighten her at first," said Billy Sunday.